As a lot of you know Abby and I will be moving to Buffalo next month. Moving to a different city no matter what the distance has its challenges. Where to live, what to do for work, how many chicken finger subs I should limit myself to each week, you know, all the important things. I think the biggest factor for both of us will be what to do for work. For me personally I will be making the transition to photography as a full time career, which to be honest can be a little frightening to think about. One of the main aspects about this blog that I want to get across is just being open with you guys. I don’t want to bullshit anyone or portray something that I’m not, and I also don’t want to shy away from explaining whats going on. Motivational speaker is definitely not on my resume, but I will do my best to give some advice of things that I have learned and experienced.
That being said, today I wanted to give my advice on dealing with the prospect of rejection. Whether it be going to ask a client about possible work, maybe asking for a raise at your job, who knows, it could even be asking someone to prom and then they say no and then they go with someone else and you don’t even end up going because that’s who you wanted to go with but you didn’t have money for a suit anyway so it really didn’t matter. Just some basic examples. Either way no one likes the idea that they could be rejected, and sometimes that can really hurt your confidence going in. I will be the first to admit that I have problems with it at times. Your head just fills with “what if’s” and the horrible thought of “what if they say no?”. What I have realized is that it is perfectly alright if they do say no. I always had the saying stuck in my head of, “what’s the worst that can happen? They say no?”. What I now realize is that it’s the complete opposite. The worst thing that could possibly happen is not asking in the first place and never knowing if it could have been a yes. It’s a mentality that has been said countless different ways, like “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” -Wayne Gretzky” – Michael Scott. But I have never thought of applying that thought to dealing with the possibility of rejection. The reason I am saying all of this is because it is something I also need to remind myself of. I can’t get clients if I don’t put myself out there, I can’t make more money if I don’t ask for a raise, and I can’t go the the dance because she said no. Confidence is a mindset and if you can put yourself in a better situation to deal with being told no you can keep your confidence high.
I am incredibly excited to make the move next month and know that my confidence with continue to grow along side my passion and career. So if you are ever sitting there worried to ask or take that next step, just remember, it will for sure be a no if you don’t even bother to find out. Thank you guys so much for reading, I will be out and about shooting some stuff tomorrow, not sure what just yet but I look forward to sharing on Friday!